Dear Al:I am 25 years old gal and I have never been in a relationship before...is there anyway you can teach me how I could get to meet some nice guys? I am a really quiet type and not those kind of outgoing person and I am not the type of ppl who are good at socialising either and gets very nevous when I am in a crowded places.....am I a hopeless case?
-- Cherry, China
Dear Cherry:
Nothing is hopeless! I'm AL, Dammit!
First expand your view of what a nice guy is, or you may never meet one. It's nice if they have alot money, smart, funny, with great looks, but chances of meeting that guy is pretty slim. I'm not saying to go out with Henry Earl, just don't be so picky!
When a group of guys approach you and your girlfriends, see if you notice if any of them have a problem making eye contact, nervous, with a not so sure look on his face. Sometimes this type of nice guy stays behind at the bar or table since he's shy himself, while his friends hit on you.
If this nice guy tries to talk to you, there's a good chance he'll say something stupid like "Ever heard of Jackie Chan?", since he's nervous like yourself, but if you give him a chance things might work out.
Maybe you should give that guy you only like as a friend, that you've known for years a chance. That nice guy might be right under your nose!
22 comments:
Meet nice guys? They still exist? From my experience, nice guys are either taken OR gay!
I'm a nice guy! Want to hook up Vengelyne?
lol chuck.
ahem, they are out there. somewhere. besides, your still young. go explore the world ! learn new skills ! pick up interesting hobbies ! the worlds your oyster. dont get bogged down on tryin to get into relationships. seriously.
OMG! If Chuck's a nice guy, I'm turning lesbo!
*wails* AL!!! SAVE ME!!! Chuck's scaring me. :'(
wait, if your turning lesbo ?
...want to hook up vengelyne ? LOL
that picture is NOT supporting your theory, al...
I have the perfect guy for her. Mr Macho Man from my blog. ROFL
I don't think there's many nice guys out there who aren't gay!
So what are you trying to say, Vengelyne?
lastlifeinmyuniverse, can I watch?!!!
Jesus! Henry's picture scared the crap out of me!
Cherry, there are nice guys out there, but let them come looking for you! Just have fun with your friends!
I used to recommend cowboys till the whole Brokeback Mountain thing... then that idea flew out the window...
Hmmmmmmmm ?
Chuck, I'm telling you bluntly NO.
Lol, lastlifeinmyuniverse. For you, babe, anytime. ;-)
And Chuck, for watching, dream on!!!
oh, hes dreaming alright.
Well, vengelyne is absolutely right.
Gay or married or UN-DATEABLE (i can't spell).
Or, they are your friends, those nice guys you're close to, and cannot consider dating them because they are like brothers to you.
*cries*
That's a sound piece of advice there Al. What really is a nice guy anyway? You gotta think...what are nice guys looking for from a woman and be that woman. I'd like to think that I'm a nice guy and I found a genuinely nice woman. If we are too nice though, women just walk all over us. Has it occured to you all that maybe nice guys are also looking for nice women? Chances are that these nice guys are not found at the clubs. I sure didn't find my wife at a club or a bar. You'd have a better chance chatting up a nice guy at the grocery store or the laundrymat. These nice guys spend most of their free time with their hobbies or video games. Even if he is nice, he still won't respect you unless you play hard to get, but, then again, it all depends what you're after. BTW, Al, I dig your blog. I just had to chime in on this one. I am a compulsive commenter.
I met a lot of nice guys in high school. There's a place to look. Though, if you're 40, it's kinda creepy... ;)
Here via Michele's!
Heny Earl -- CLASSIC!
michele sent me for the best laugh of the week
Great advice! ...I completely agree.
Happy Friday! Michele sent me by today.
Hello! It's my first visit to your blog, and I'm glad to have found it. I hope you achieve the fame you desire!
Vengelyne, how about me? I'm a nice guy, maybe a little bit older than you, have a teenage soon, but that shouldn't be a problem, right? :P
I'm sure you're a nice guy, Jonathan, but I'm skeptical about the part whereby your teenage son doesn't show you the respect that you so deserve, you know? *shifty eyes*
And I might just hit it off with your teenage son instead! So, married man are outta the question for me. =)
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