I really need u to tell me!

Dear AL:
Really need your advice on this and the story is long!!! I am from Hong Kong but currently working in C----. Last week, I met this journalist who tried to ask the company I worked in for an interview, but got rejected. Before he left, he gave me his business card and then I found out that he was from the same news agent that I used to work in when I was in HK!! (is it a sign?)

Anyway, he called me later and asked me out for a drink, that was follow by lunch the next day and dinner 2 days later..I had a great time chating with him but I am not sure if he likes me or not since he didn't really ask me much about myself and he didn't give me any hints that he is interested in me. What should I do ? Should I just give up? And also there is one problem, he and I are working in different parts of C----, so don't think we can meet that often....

Pls Pls... I really need u to tell me if I would have a chance with this guy or not! -- Sherry, C----
(location censored for your own safety due to your situation)

Dear Sherry:
He tries to interview your company, gets rejected, gives you his card, you go with him on dates, and not once did he ask you about yourself. Whoa! That's a sign or right! A sign that he could have been using you to get information about the company you work for, or just interested in your shoes.

He's a journalist, and if he was really interested in you, he would have probed your life like a major story, but he didn't like you said. He probably talked a little about his job, so you would open about where you work, to which he gradually drilled you with questions about you company, while trying to keep it casual. Even if I'm wrong about this, just going out with a journalist who tried to interview your company just doesn't look good.

If he writes a story, this could cost you your job, right in the middle of the C----.
I could be wrong, but to be sure, I need more information about what you both talked about on your dates, but no company name, and nothing about what your company does for your own safety. Write to me using the same form you used on the right, but don't send your email. I'll only write back to you here.

What would you do?

Dear AL:
Say there's this beautiful girl who's kinda nice, Republican, who can hold her own defending Creation. What would you do in my shoes?
-- Alan, Virginia Beach

Dear Alan:
Run away!

I am frustrated!

Dear AL:
I have been married for 7 years but have known him since 10 years. After marriage he is just not interested in sex. He cites tiredness and financial problems. I am frustated. We have two kids. Should I divorce him? The kids love him. Please help. He threatens to leave us if I bring up this issue. He will not go for counseling also. I have now started name calling and things are worse. please help.
-- Archie, India

Dear Archie:
First off, are you female? If so, excuse me.

Not sure what the laws are in India. Just don't want to be responsible if the authorities have your head chopped off, but I don't want to leave you hanging either.

Stop with the cursing, take care of yourself physically, and when he comes around because you look like the Bollywood star Juhi Chawla, hand him the divorce papers. Watch how fast he'll plead for forgiveness for a little putay, which would be even more reason to leave this fool!

If you have no time to workout, or you're already a knockout, be kind and do things together with him to get his mind off his problems. If after a few weeks of this he's still the same, divorce his ass! Why waste your time with someone who threatens to leave you because you want to f-ck? Life is short!

Before you make your decision, you need to know what you're getting into when it comes to divorce in India. The information from the link below was published in 1997, so the laws might have changed:
http://www.english.emory.edu/Bahri/Divorce.html

I hoped this helped!

Do I ignore him, or stick with plan A?

Dear AL:
There's this guy seriously pissing me off in school. Do I ignore him, or stick with Plan A, which is to turn up at his door step with a chainsaw and a maniacal laugh?
-- Angry Girl


Dear Angry Girl:
Losers don't give up easy, that's if he's hitting on you, so ignoring him wont work, but plan B and C might do the trick!

Plan B: Eat chocolate for a few hours, and the next time you see him, try to kiss him with your pimpled lips. Works everytime, unless he has herpes.

Plan C: If you have no friends, wear the same socks for weeks, and stop wearing deodorant. This will smoke him out of the class room, get you banned from school, but you know you're clean, right? Right?

He's depressed day in and out

Dear Al:
I am wondering about my fiancee. He tells me that he is never happy. There was a time where he even had a plan to kill himself. At that point he actually reluctantly talked to a psychologist and was admitted overnight to the hospital. Well now he is depressed, doesn't seem to really have any goals and will not (and I repeat WILL NOT) get help. I cannot force him to talk to someone because he has not actually tried to hurt himself, but I am very worried about him. I see him be depressed day in day out and I just want to see him happy again. I just don't know what to do anymore, because I try to encourage him to talk to me, but he bottles up. What should I do? I don't want to force him to do anything, but this is just not right. He should not be this depressed all the time, but he won't get help. What am I supposed to do? -- Rose

Dear Rose:
The best course of action is to continue showing him love, do things with him to get his mind off his problems for a little while, and when you feel he's more relaxed, talk to him again about seeing a professional ASAP. If he still doesn't want to get help, continue what I stated above (love, doing things together) in hope he'll do the right thing himself.

Last course of action if nothing seems to be helping is to move on and don't look back. I'm sorry, but you have to take care of yourself. Don't let him drag you down.